Collaborative Psychotherapy for Clarity in Dizzying Times
Matthew Bethell, M.A., LMFT
Therapy begins when you are tired of the loop of dreads and replays. That ambiguous anxiety holding you back. Feeling inadequate, yet trying to keep it all together. This is where you can slow the noise enough to set some of that down, and reflect on the life you are living and where you want it to go.
I work with individuals, couples, and families. The work is collaborative, intentional but unhurried. There is room to connect what has happened with what is happening, and space to choose what you will stand for from here.
Individual Therapy
When you want to explore whats showing up for you: the rumination, the emptiness, and the hope for a life you would be glad to inhabit. A place to sit with the feeling and see the pattern clearly, so you can have some influence over the next step.
Couples Therapy
It is never about the dishes. Nobody wins, nobody feels heard, both feel the distaance. Or the arguements have stopped, and the home is painfully silent. This is a place to see the dance, and to catch one another so the next step is not further apart.
Family Therapy
Roles become the default rules. Then life changes—someone grows up, someone leaves, someone can no longer play the same part—and the old pattern will not hold. The actual hurt is hard to talk about, so hiding and arguments do all the talking. When the pattern is bigger than any one of you, this is a place to look for a more honest way of being in a room together.
Many seek psychotherapy striving to lead fulfilling lives—to be present friends, parents, partners, not merely manage the next wave of distress. Intuitively, we may think of pain and boredom as problems to be solved through more rational thinking, looking on the bright side, or keeping busy. We can work admirably at what we see needs improvement in ourselves, and meet the paradox: excessive effort, affirmations, and distractions often magnify the suffering they were meant to relieve. The positive thoughts can attract the evidence for why we don't measure up to what we believe we should be. We can know the loop and still get caught in it.
We can take time to notice what appears in awareness—the internal chatter, dread, pressure—without getting lost in rumination or hiding from ourselves. The urge to control others and ensure outcomes may still show up, especially in the face of all the ambiguity there is in life. We can see it without having to follow it. From there, we can live more honestly with what is, rather than happiness having to wait until life goes as planned. Pain and suffering are different, and when we meet pain honestly, maybe we can do less suffering. Your actions can represent what you stand for, even through grief, anxiety, and the unknown. I would be glad to walk with you in that work.
-Matthew
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